When I first read that question¹, I straight away answered: “Yes, of course!”.
Then, I noticed that my mind was wondering, a bit like taking spiral stairs down, and down, and down…
And I stopped.
Memories came back from critical self-talks from me and from my clients: “You are not doing enough!”, “You fucked it up!”, “ It is my fault”, “I am the only one responsible”, “No wonder that nobody like you”, “You put on weight so much”, etc..
What a surprise ! I realised how much this question “Are you willing to like yourself?” is triggering…
Feeling a bit of warm sadness around my eyes…
Taking time...
Of course I do want to like myself! Of course my clients want to like themselves!
Would you like to acknowledge that is like taking a bite of your heart realising that so much self-critic is present? Ouch! It hurts!
And would you like to shout out so loud that the whole earth could hear ? That…
Care and compassion shall be given to all without distinction.
Your self-talk makes sense somehow.
You do make sense.
Warm accompaniment is universal. And it starts with the willingness to receive it.
¹Peyton, S. (2021). Your Resonant Self Workbook. W. W. Norton & Company.
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